Comments for American Buddhist Net http://americanbuddhist.net abn Mon, 26 Dec 2011 19:33:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on More thoughts on “Empathy” by Edwin Rutsch http://americanbuddhist.net/2011/12/26/more-thoughts-on-empathy/#comment-49 Mon, 26 Dec 2011 19:33:57 +0000 http://americanbuddhist.net/?p=466#comment-49 May I suggest a further resource to learn more about empathy and compassion.
The Center for Building a Culture of Empathy
The Culture of Empathy website is the largest internet portal for resources and information about the values of empathy and compassion. It contains articles, conferences, definitions, experts, history, interviews,  videos, science and much more about empathy and compassion.
http://CultureOfEmpathy.com

Also, I invite you to post a link to your article about empathy to our Empathy Center Facebook page.
http://Facebook.com/EmpathyCenter

]]> Comment on Certitude/Coherence by ABN http://americanbuddhist.net/2011/12/06/certitudecoherence/#comment-13 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 14:22:04 +0000 http://buddhistnet.wordpress.com/?p=235#comment-13 Incidentally, I believe that the ethics required to do FIML will all but guarantee that FIML partners will create highly ethical subcultures for themselves. When you do FIML you will see with great clarity why it is important to have and adhere to good ethical standards.

FIML helps us find mutual and inner certitude based on rational and honest discourse with our partner. FIML is a technique. It is a dynamic communication technique. It affects how you function interpersonally with your partner, allowing both of you to build the kind of relationship you want.

]]> Comment on The Noble Eightfold Path and Functional Interpersonal Meta Linguistics (FIML): Part 4 by ABN http://americanbuddhist.net/2011/10/11/the-noble-eightfold-path-and-functional-interpersonal-meta-linguistics-fiml-part-4/#comment-6 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 15:06:13 +0000 http://buddhistnet.wordpress.com/?p=85#comment-6 This line may need some explanation: “Maybe they were tired, maybe the subject (not you) seemed irritating, maybe you completely misheard them.”

If your partner is irritated with you, they probably are experiencing a neurotic response themselves and probably should have initiated a FIML discussion before that point.

My SO and I have found that it is quite common for one of us to appear irritated, discouraged, or unhappy about the subject we are discussing, but be understood by the other to be having those feelings about them. See if you are not doing this with your SO. I bet it is very likely you are. Once this mix-up is understood, you will go immediately from feeling bothered by your partner to feeling that you are fully sharing the experience with them.

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