A group of massage therapists in Florida have been arrested amid claims they offered to perform sex acts to undercover detectives during a two-day sting dubbed ‘Operation Skin So Soft’.
During the two-day operation, which began this past Monday, undercover detectives went to 22 different Asian massage parlors around Polk County to get massages from licensed therapists.
But 20 of those women – who are all from the Republic of China – offered sex acts to the detectives completely unprompted.
One of the women arrested was said to have ‘tried to have full sex’ with the detective even after he denied her advances.
The name given to the sting – ‘Operation Skin So Soft’ – was inspired by a compliment given to an undercover officer while they were auditing the massage parlors.
This caught my eye because I lived in Taiwan for some time and because cases like this are usually not so large or so prominently displayed in the news, near top of first page of DM. Everyone in the photo is an adult. But it is often the case that sex-workers in East Asia, and probably most of the world, are sold into the profession when they are young by their parents or ‘guardians’, or otherwise forced or enticed into it at an age when they are much too young to understand the consequences. Consider 8 year-old drag queens performing in front of adult audiences in USA in this light. It used to be in Taiwan that parents ‘sold’ their children into sex-work by signing contracts that paid them while indenturing their children. Not sure what the story in Taiwan is today. Could be the same. What do the USA parents of an 8 year-old drag queen get? ABN
Moreover, the few extra years of schooling largely yield group-think, which is abundantly evident in medicine, academia, much of science, all of MSM, etc. Rural, formally uneducated people have not spent their lives not learning. They know tons of stuff and their human instincts are generally intact, unlike smarmy academics who can’t see the forest for the trees, as above. ABN
I’m a 31F mental health therapist specializing in asian american suicide. I’m about to present to my state’s suicide council to advocate for more awareness into the tiger parenting dynamic that causes suicide as someone who attempted when I was 16. I’m currently trying to gather research from the heads of my field (the American Psychological Association) and i. am. pissed. Every research article published by Asian American psychologists says the root cause of AA mental health is… racism by white people. They talk about white people causing the model minority pressure. WTF?! That pressure doesn’t come from THEM! It comes from our parents!
Yes we experience racism. But that is not the core of our issues as Asian American kids. Also mind you, when I was in school for my BA degree in psych (2011-2015) the research papers and articles I had to study in school NEVER used the asian demographic in their studies! it was always blacks and latinos! and now that we have representation its fucking skewed and not representative of what we actually go through. it was so invalidating and infuriating to read.
This is ripple effect of what happened in 2011 when Amy Chua came out with her book and outted the concept of tiger parenting. For the first time someone named what we were all going through. And we had something out there we can grab hold of and DO something about it.
But what did the Asian American community do instead?
They. rejected. it. They did the whole NoT eVeRy AsIAn. They made it a SIN to talk about the very real shit that is posted on here every single day. They hid our struggles because the optics looked so bad. They did the exact problem that’s causing problems in our community: shut up and keep quiet. I couldn’t fucking believe the backlash. I and so many other Asian American kids tried killing ourselves because of this tiger parenting shit. I’m a fucking therapist specializing in suicide for Asian Americans because no therapist in my 20 years of trying to get help for this problem know what the fuck to do.
I’m so livid. I’m out here specializing in AA suicide, about to talk to my state council and trying to find facts and research to justify more money into the nuances of asian american mental health and our own people are hurting us.
Just had to rant and get it off my chest. Now off work on my presentation and do better than these wimps.
Yesterday, someone shared your Twitter post with me. I have also read some of the responses to it. I imagine yesterday was a very difficult day for you, especially given the concerns for your mother.
I find it hard to imagine what it must be like to spend four years deep in one belief system and then suddenly, and horribly, have your eyes open to the fact that you may have been deceived.
I will take you through the scientific evidence for why what happened to your mother was related to her covid vaccines and not to “asymptomatic covid”. You said you only want peer reviewed evidence so you can check funding sources etc. Let me reassure you that funding concerns are all in one direction through pharma sponsorship (see editors of NEJM and Lancet) and no money comes to those who are raising concerns.
Extreme self-deception, in my view, a classic Jewish cultural and personality trait, plausibly genetically entrenched through centuries of cultural selection and inbreeding. ABN
Men’s general intelligence is associated with better relationship investment and lower aversive behaviors, according to a study published in Personality and Individual Differences.
Past research shows that higher general intelligence (g) is associated with numerous positive life outcomes, such as academic success, better socioeconomic status, and lower likelihood of criminality. These studies also suggest that intelligence may play a role in romantic relationships. General intelligence has been linked to lower rates of divorce and higher chances of being married in mid-life, but the effects of intelligence on more nuanced relationship behaviors have not been as widely explored.
In their new study, Gavin S. Vance and colleagues examined how men’s intelligence related to behaviors such as partner-directed insults, sexual coercion, and relationship investment.
Their research builds on existing theories that intelligence could influence romantic relationship behaviors. Some past studies suggested that specific cognitive abilities, such as problem-solving and memory, can contribute to better conflict resolution between partners. For instance, people with strong working memory skills tend to recall their partner’s perspective during conflicts, helping to reduce the severity of relationship issues.
Working memory can be cultivated and improved. Memory is important in Buddhist mindfulness practice as well as in Buddhist ethical practices. Memory skills greatly enhance FIML practice. Some people are fundamentally more talented mnemonically, but most people can very effectively improve interpersonal skills when working with a compatible partner. Mindfulness when applied to interpersonal communication improves not only memory and communication skills, but also our understanding of how we actually are operating in the world. In a nutshell, morality boils down to internal subjective integrity — active use of our working memories, Buddhist mindfulness, and FIML all contribute to a wise understanding of what we are and why good ethics are of fundamental importance to that. ABN
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