Hey guys. I need to make some GOOD comments about men.
1. When I first started speaking out, I was anonymous on Twitter. I had just started my case with the federal government (2021). I was thrown under the bus–especially the first year by people who said they had my back–but it was not by men.
Men, great men, were my primary supporters during that time, and still are today. The bulk of them were, and have been, complete gentlemen to me–in every sense of the word. Famous or not, several men have been such a rock for me. I have mentioned them by name previously. They come from all walks of life–medical, academia, insurance industries, military, former hostage negotiator and lieutenant–these guys stood up for me, stood in front of me, protected me, gave me great advice, and helped keep me safe during some rough times when I was receiving serious harassment and threats, which a few came to my person in real life–especially last year.
In 2021, I was afraid to use my real name in public and speak out, and some of these guys had Zoom calls, phone calls, and met me to let me know they had my back, and they were not going anywhere. They are still here today. You know who you are. Thank you!
2. Men are receiving a lot of heat these days just for being men. They are not appreciated. I wish this was not the case. Many men, good men, are being treated poorly, and unfairly. I wish this was not happening. I know you could blame feminism or whatever it is, but I know this is happening at scale–even in politically conservative and religious areas, and I am oh so sorry for this. I know this is going to change at some point.
3. Men, a large number of you are not being treated properly by the women in your lives. Beyond my science majors, I also have a degree in sociology, and majors at the grad level in psychology–mostly all at R1 schools–I have spent over a decade at university–I am 48 and have had time to do a lot, and witness a lot. My training is trauma and attachment trauma on the psychology side. I am hearing from so many men, that the women in their lives are not valuing them. Not making them feel wanted. Not appreciating them. Not making them feel desired, and this goes not just into romance, but into the core of who you are in making you feel appreciated, as a man. This is not about cooking and cleaning-a good chunk of women do not know how to properly talk to a man to make him feel desired, and make them feel virile. This extends outside of the bedroom, to self-assurance, confidence, appreciated in his like, work, friendship, and place in the world. This also refers to virtue, servitude, strength, and compassion. I am sorry that women are not treating you properly, and are expecting so much, without supporting you fully in all the ways they should be.
The world is a messed up place right now.
But I just wanted to say, thank you to all of the strong, great men speaking out right now, and especially those who have supported women like me in some way. We appreciate you.
American Buddhist Net 