I’m aware dating isn’t allowed in Islam, but I’ve been dating a Muslim guy for a year now. He’s talking about marriage and trying to convince me to convert. I just have to vent.
I wish islam was more open minded. Why would it ever be a good idea to follow a book word for word from thousands of years ago when people still believed the earth was flat? Why would people want to reject modernization?
I’m not religious myself but if I did accept a higher power he wouldn’t send people to hell for eating pork or not covering your hair. He wouldn’t make people gay and then expect them to deny themselves of any romance for their entire lives as a “test” It just seems so outdated and controlling and man made. My boyfriend although he calls himself Muslim he tells me he believe in evolution and is okay with me not wearing hijab, he has had premarital sex and occasionally smokes weed but says he has stopped. But when I try to convince him to have a more open mind when it comes to religion it’s like he reverts back to a close minded person.
I don’t mind my future kids being religious but I can’t have them learning that being gay is wrong and that my daughter has to cover her hair to protect herself from men… I don’t want them to be afraid of their loving god sending them to hell for simple things even my boyfriend has done.
I love him but sometimes the religion aspect is so frustrating. And I feel like when I question it too much he gets offended and I worry he starts thinking I’m not worth all this trouble.
Is anyone else here in a relationship with a Muslim? I hope I’m not alone.
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I am posting this because I find religion and culture almost always interesting. Judge the comments at the link above as you like. Religion can be a strong form of culture, and as such extremely rigid, impenetrable, impossible to join in from outside. Each culture and religion has different gradations of this.
My experience with Buddhism is the religion is very mild toward non-Buddhists, even open and accepting, but when the religion is deeply imbued with a historical culture, problems may occur as Buddhists who are doubly-bound by culture and religion very often believe or act as if they believe that their culture and Buddhism are ‘the same’ or ‘one thing’.
In cases like that, you might encounter irreconcilable difficulties if you are from a different culture. For example, some old-school Buddhists might believe that you cannot possibly understand the Dharma if you do not speak their language, even when the Buddha said precisely the opposite. ABN
American Buddhist Net 