Multi Dimensional Yin Yang (MDYY) is a term I made up.
It can be used when two people are making a joint decision and discover that both of them care a lot about what the other one thinks or wants.
This kind of situation can arise between husbands and wives, good friends, or even business partners.
It’s good to have a term like this so that when weighing the factors going into a decision, this part of the weighing has a referent which both partners understand is intrinsically difficult to weigh rationally and to discuss.
MDYY is useful only when both partners care about each other and the decision they are making.
And both partners want to be honest and fair with each other and arrive at a good outcome.
In colloquial short-hand, the usefulness of MDYY arises when one partner says, my wanting to do this depends on how much you want to do it, and the other partner feels the same.
I have been using this term with my partner as we discuss a very consequential and complex decision we are making together.
Using this term allows us to set aside the MDYY aspect of our decision-making while talking about other factors that impinge on both the weighing of the decision and the final decision itself. ABN
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