There is surely much truth in the conclusions of the study summarized in this article: Why Are Mean People So Good Looking?
In the terms we have been using on this site, people who work on having “adorned good looks” are consciously plying the semiotics of appearance, often for selfish or even harmful reasons.
People also do this with how they portray their personalities, values, beliefs, backgrounds, incomes, and so on.
FIML partners have the technique to clear these sorts of false-fronts—these sorts of manipulative semiotics—out of their relationship. The clearing happens gradually, but it is possible to clear away all of it.