When you listen to someone speak, you have to imagine, or interpret, what they mean. This is obvious.
But if it is so obvious, what are you doing about it?
Are you imagining correctly? And just as importantly, are others imagining you correctly?
People are like cut-outs always posturing one way or the other to produce some desired effect in the minds of other people—an effect that they imagine.
With most people, it is very difficult to leave that system, to correct erroneous or imaginary interpretations of what we say and hear. But with those closest to us, we can correct wrong interpretations.
The only way that I know of to do this effectively is FIML practice. All other methods that I know about only lead toward generalities, stories, and more imaginary posturing.
Semiotic codes and signs can be understood and gotten outside of in a very profound way, but this has to be done at the micro-level, the level of basic FIML practice. It must be done “in the moment” at the interpersonal level between (almost always) just two people.
This is so because speech is clumsy and if you add more people, there will be more confusion. It is possible for three or four people to do FIML together, but it will be more difficult in most cases.
You also cannot do FIML—or any profound semiotic analysis—alone. This is because a mind alone is inevitably liable to bias and self-deception (self-posturing).
If any reader knows a way to accomplish FIML results without doing FIML, please let me know. So far, I have not seen anything else that does it.