Moral growth requires mistakes.
Ikkyu, the Zen poet monk, wrote: “Satori is mistake after mistake.”
“You” are not your worldly biography, which is unknowable, but rather the moral being that has learned through worldly experiences.
“You” are not your moral mistakes, which can be worn like shackles, but rather what you would do now if you were faced with those decisions again.
You cannot have gotten to that point without the mistakes you have made.