Emotional Neglect and Emotional Invalidation Aren’t the Same

Emotional invalidation is an active process in which someone tries to negate, criticize, override, or quash your feelings.

In contrast, pure emotional neglect can be delivered passively with no direct action, making it difficult to see or remember.

The way you end up treating your own emotions as an adult is affected by having either of these experiences growing up.


A very brief thumbnail related to this is child abuse in Asian cultures tends to be controlling and active, while in Western cultures it tends toward being neglectful. Some aspects of an abusive childhood can be turned to your advantage. Neglect does make you realize you are on your own at an early age. When this realization comes to you at age four, you have a tough row ahead of you but your foundation in many ways is very solid. There are many more examples like this. ABN

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