FIML changes the personality and sense of group allegiance

FIML practice changes your personality, your sense of self, because the basis of who you tell yourself you are changes. It changes from a static notion/story/semiology of a solid, if elusive, “me” to an active function. The active function, a process of understanding, happens because when you do FIML you interact with your partner on a truly active basis. This basis is mutually agreed upon and admits far more “objective”/external data into your core self-assessment than is possible without FIML. FIML teaches both partners the value of micromanaging their communication and being completely honest about every moment of communication, every “psychological morpheme” that transits between them.

FIML practice changes your sense of group allegiance by gradually allowing partners to shift their sense of allegiance away from the static ideals of an external group to the dynamic, functional processes of their mutual FIML practice, their honest and very accessible “interpersonality.”

For example, if both partners are “Buddhists,” they will gradually be able to shift their understanding of the Dharma from static, imitative notions of how to be to much richer conclusions based on honest interactive experience. They will grow away from their reliance on two-dimensional ideals toward a mutually understood experience of Buddhist truths. Nothing wrong with ideals in the right place and time, but individual Buddhists must advance beyond merely acting them out, pretending they feel ways they don’t. The core of the mind is accessed in FIML practice because FIML accesses core communication processes. An individual all alone can gain many insights, but without the help of a FIML partner how can they check their insights?

Buddhists who practice FIML will find their practice informed by Buddhism at almost every turn, but this is different from modelling a static personality on static Buddhist ideals. It is so radically different, I suspect it is much closer to what the Buddha actually meant and probably a major reason monks traveled in pairs for most of the year. How can you know yourself, your being, your reality, if you aren’t sure of what people are saying to you or how they are hearing you? Not only not sure, but wrong most of the time? The answer is you cannot. It’s not possible. FIML will wake you and your partner from that major aspect of the dream. As the Diamond Sutra says:

All conditioned dharmas
are like dreams, like illusions,
like bubbles, like shadows,
like dew, like lightning,
and all of them should be contemplated in this way.

Psychology recapitulates sociology, and the other way around is true, as well—sociology recapitulates psychology. Groups of people when they are bound by static ideals/beliefs are worse than individuals. Groups like that—and that is how almost all groups are—are sociopathic; that is, the group acts like a psychopath. Individuals within the group may be “nice” to other group members, but the group itself rarely will eschew all “callous disregard for” other groups, the very definition of a psychopath. Even Buddhist groups do this. The only ones that don’t are so small and weak, they dare not.

The same is true as much or more so for all other groups—religious, national, ethnic, gender-based, racial, psychological, whatever. This is because all groups are based on static ideals, which when internalized, reduce the functionality of the individual and corrupt their morality.

Science in many ways is an exception because as a group “science” is objective, rational, parsimonious, evidence-based. In practice of course, the sociology of how science is actually done can be fraught with delusion. Science works very well at a high level of abstraction, but many individual scientists will feel low-grade sociological pressures and many of them will belong to groups that are based on ideals that are very different from science and that are sociopathic.

Yes, I believe all large groups are dangerous and will lead individuals to make serious ethical mistakes. And yet, we have to belong somewhere. It is torture to be all alone. This is where FIML can help greatly. You can fulfill many of your group needs by identifying your core group as you and your partner. FIML partners must continue to be deeply informed by other groups—science, Buddhism, good politics, your friends and neighbors, etc.—but they need not take in the sociopathic ideals of those groups. Go to your temples, enjoy them, do the meditations, participate, but don’t be a damn fool about it. With the help of your partner, you will be able to separate out the dreams, illusions, shadows, and lightning of the Dharma from the profound reality of your actual lives as you are actually living them. You will discover, with the help of the Dharma, the suchness of your actual being, not someone else’s.

2 comments on “FIML changes the personality and sense of group allegiance

  1. gold price says:

    A much closer connection between phonological grammar and mental lexicon is revealed by studies of gradience in phonology using linguistic and metalinguistic data. The discovery of these new dimensions of phonological variation would not have been possible without corpus methods and data from groups of participants in psycholinguistic experiments. The presence of gradient phonological constraints illustrates that phonological knowledge goes beyond a categorical symbolic representation of possible forms in a language. To accommodate the broader scope of phonological generalizations, models of grammar will have to become more like models of other cognitive domains, which have long recognized and debated the nature of frequency and similarity effects for mental representation and processing. Well-understood mechanisms of speech perception and speech production bind the scope of phonological variability. Phonological categories and phonological patterns give a sufficiently rich and intricate variety of alternatives to explore the full complexity of cognitive processes.

    • ABN says:

      This comment comes from what looks like a spam account, but it is a good and relevant comment. Smart machine, if a machine copied that and stuck it in here.

      “Well-understood mechanisms of speech perception and speech production bind the scope of phonological variability. Phonological categories and phonological patterns give a sufficiently rich and intricate variety of alternatives to explore the full complexity of cognitive processes.”

      I agree, though maybe not with the “full complexity” part. Complexity sounds better.

      Anyway, this aspect of communication is a major part of any FIML discussion. FIML indeed seeks to “explore the full complexity of cognitive processes” and communicative ones in any way partners can think of, including phonology. Anything that can cause communication or cause a misunderstanding is a topic suited to FIML discussions.

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