Can we achieve whole brain transformation through an accumulation of micro inputs?
In other words, can we achieve deep transformation by gathering many small bits of information? Or by many small insights?
To ask is to answer. Most deep transformation happens this way.
We see something, see it from another angle, see it again and again, and eventually a transformation happens. It takes time.
We don’t usually make deep changes in a single moment with no prior accumulation of bits of knowledge or insight. What happens is the bits accumulate into a large enough mass of information and we “suddenly” change.
Changes of this type can occur within skill sets, within thought and emotional patterns, and within our general psychology.
An example of this kind of change happened to me recently.
For years, my partner had been telling me that I have a “positive neurosis” about some friends of ours. (A positive neurosis is an “overly-optimistic mistaken interpretation of something.”)
And for years, she tried to convince me that I was making a mistake. My mistake persisted for a long time because we rarely saw those friends.
Persisting for a long time was sort of good because it showed me how deep-seated this mistake was and that I have made it in many areas of my life.
My positive neurosis was that I thought these friends were extremely open to freewheeling discussions where almost anything can be said.
“No, they are not like that. You just think they are like that,” my partner said.
It came to pass that I found out she was right. Those friends do not like that sort of discussion. They do not even understand what the point of it could be.
So I changed. I made a deep transformation in how I see them, how I see myself, and how I see other people in general.
I now know that I have to be more careful in how I speak and in what I assume about others. Some people are discomfited by freewheeling talk and suffer from it. Not my intent! A positive neurosis to think otherwise!
This realization came about slowly—first through a long accumulation of bits of information coming from my partner and then by a more rapid understanding that what she had been saying was right when we had a chance to spend some serious time with the friends in question (who are still friends, I think).
My partner got me to see that through an accumulation of many FIML queries and follow-up discussions about those friends. Even though I never agreed with her, I did store her views away in my mind.
When circumstances were right, I saw she was right and I was wrong and changed.
I do not feel ashamed or sad or humiliated. I simply realize that I was wrong.
An accumulation of many micro bits of information caused a deep transformation in my mind as soon as conditions were right.
FIML shows us that finding out we are wrong about stuff like that is great, wonderful, the best thing.
I am going to suffer less and our old friends, and others, will too. A mistake I have been making and that was a fairly large part of my mind is gone and now I am free to fill that space with better stuff.
Most FIML queries are about the two partners who are doing FIML. What happened above is a type of FIML that involves our understanding of other people.
The one above bore good fruit because the long time duration forced me to see how deep my mistake was.