The following are some basic rules for a practical behaviorist approach to speech.
Use real speech in Real-World, Real-Time (RWRT) situations.
Keep it simple by using only two people. Make it deep by using the same two people for years. No third person is needed or wanted.
Use only good data that both speaker and listener can agree on. For RWRT speech, this means only speech that is/just was in the working memory of both partners.
That is, both partners must agree on what was said and heard. If the listener heard “boo” and the speaker agrees they said “boo”, that is good data.
Partners must reach that agreement while keeping intact the contents of their working memories when the word “boo” was said/heard in RWRT. (This takes a little practice but is not that hard to do.)
Both speaker and listener can now analyze that data by discovering (through speech) what was in their working memories when they heard or spoke “boo”.
These simple rules bypass predetermined thoughts about what we believe we are saying or said, believe we are hearing or heard.
In so doing, these simple rules lead us gradually but very significantly away from surface speech (see: Time pressure encourages socially acceptable speech) to much deeper and more accurate communication between partners.
And this deepens partners’ sense of who or what they are across all domains.
That such simple rules can deeply change how we speak and hear and how we think about ourselves and others and how we understand the entire enterprise of human psychology, shows that—you might say—God exists, or the Buddha Mind exists, or profound other realms are available to human beings, that a deep sense of karma is real, that what we say matters, that not doing our best to speak the truth is what the Buddha meant by “frivolous speech” and he did so for a good reason because enlightenment itself lies thataway.
I think it’s delightfully paradoxical that simple behaviorist rules can lead us to having religious experiences.
Can we restate or add to Cogito ergo sum by saying: Recte loquendo Deum esse demonstramus? (By speaking properly we demonstrate that God exists)